At this point in my life, there aren't many questions that I get asked "frequently." In fact, none that I can think of off the top of my head. But there was a time...
Although sometimes the attention was appreciated, more often, taking my girls out in public (such as to the grocery store) became a chore, as I would be stopped in nearly every aisle by someone wanting to coo over my babies and then ask the inevitable. All while I was trying to rush through a quick shop so I could get them home before feeding time and the impending meltdown.
Although most people were well-meaning, at times, I literally wanted to make a sign and hang it from their stroller! Because in all honesty.... it got old. Fast. Sometimes the questions were stupid. And sometimes they were grossly inappropriate. But here, in no particular order, are the most frequently asked questions...
1. Do twins run in your family?
No, but they do run in my husband's family.
2. Boys or Girls? [Ahem. I'm all for not playing into gender stereotypes, but I always took them out dressed in pink, usually with little ribbons in their hair.] Oh, girls.
3. Are they identical or fraternal?
[Seriously? Did you even look at them before you asked me that?] Rachel and Becca are decidedly fraternal. They did not look alike as infants, nor do they look alike now - other than the normal sibling resemblance. Rachel's face is now more narrow and long with a squared off chin (like Dad), she has small delicate ears, and her hair is blonder. Becca has a rounder face, larger ears, and darker hair, although she didn't have any hair to speak of before she was two! Their noses are different, their eye color is different. Personality wise - night and day! And we have never referred to them as "the twins" ~ they are two separate human beings who happen to share a birthday.
4. Natural or C-Section? I had Rachel and Becca C-section (unplanned) because when I went into labor Becca was positioned breech and up under my rib cage. After the fact, the doctors said she was small enough that they probably could have turned her once Rachel was out. Too late for that. If you ask my husband he'll tell you that it was for the best. Apparently he didn't relish the experience of me screaming my head off during Sarah's delivery! Having done it both ways, I can't say I honestly recommend one over the other. They are just different experiences.
5. Who was born first? Rachel. By one minute. And since she was the one properly positioned, she would have been born first anyway.
6. How big were they when they were born? Rachel was 6 lbs 7 oz., Becca was 5 lbs, 7 oz. They were born 3 weeks early which is normal with twins and I was HUGE. They came home from the hospital weighing 5 lbs, 11 oz. and 4 lbs, 11 oz. respectively. Becca was such a tiny thing, she wore the outfit off a cabbage patch doll!
7. Nursing or bottle feeding? [No kidding, COMPLETE STRANGERS would ask me this! Well, if it is any of your business...] Both. I nursed until their first check up. They weren't putting on weight, so after that I supplemented with formula and switched between them who got to nurse. At least that way, Dad could help with the feedings. They were weaned to formula when I went back to work.
8. How do you handle it? I swear I never knew how to answer this. I still don't. When you have no other choice, you just DO.
I don't get asked these questions any longer. Although occasionally when I'm out with all three girls, we'll get asked if they are triplets. That drives Sarah nuts. It is hard when you are 20 to be taken for 17!
Now the most frequently asked question is directed at Rachel and Becca...
9. What is it like being a twin? To which I can only hope they respond, "What is it like not being a twin?" Because honestly, being a twin is all they have ever known. How can they compare that to not being a twin?